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Jules Coté – Essex
Jules Coté, 78, of Essex passed away on Monday, Nov. 17, 2014, at the Vermont Respite House in Williston. He was born Sept.10, 1936 in Asbestos, Quebec, son of Raoul and Marie-Anna Coté. Jules graduated from Dartmouth College in 1960, and Boston University with a Masters Degree in 1965. Jules became a Lion in 1966, and was a Past International Director of Lions Clubs International. He was formerly Associate Director of Helen Keller National Center for Deaf-Blind Youth and Adults, and retired as Executive Director of the Vermont Association for the Blind and Visually Impaired in 2000. In recognition of his service to his community and career, he received numerous honors and awards, including the Ambassador of Goodwill Medal, the highest honor Lions Clubs International grants its members, and was a multi-level Progressive Melvin Jones Fellow. Jules believed in service, and loved spending time with his family and friends. He loved travel, audio books, playing piano, gardening, playing card games, camping, all things maple, and never passed up a dessert.  He is survived by his wife Jacqueline; son Marc and Michelle Coté of Delaware; daughter Carmelle and John Terborgh of Essex Junction; grandchildren Emma, Hannah and Christian Coté, Bryce and Graham Terborgh; brothers and sisters. A Mass, followed by a memorial gathering in the Parish Hall, will be held at Holy Family Church, 36 Lincoln St., Essex Jct., (802) 878-5331 on Saturday, Nov.29, 2014 at 12:30pm. Interment will be at the convenience of the family at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to: Lions Clubs International Foundation (LCIF), www.lcif.org/EN/ways-to-give/lion-memory-honor-donation.php (you may select non-member), or Vermont Respite House, www.vnacares.org/donate/remembering-honoring-loved-ones (to support the VRH). A full obituary may be viewed at www.awrfh.com.

Elaine Sharon Dates
– Burlington
Elaine Sharon Dates, wife of Stephen B. Dates, was born on March 1, 1942, in Hartford, Conn. She graduated from Burlington High School in 1960 and the University of Vermont with a BA in Classics in 1964. She went on to earn her Masters in Latin from Wayne State University and a Masters in Italian from Middlebury College and the University of Florence. Elaine and Stephen were married on Feb. 19, 1983, in Burlington’s First Congregational Church. They spent the next 31 years as a couple who shared all of their activities. Elaine appreciated lifelong learning and in retirement continued her education by activities with the Burlington Garden Club, Federated Garden Clubs of Vermont, New England Region Garden Clubs, and the National Garden Clubs. Upon completion of four years of schooling she became a National Garden Club Accredited Judge. She has won numerous awards in flower arranging in NGC Flower Shows including the Boston Flower Show and the Philadelphia Flower Show. Elaine was President of the Burlington Garden Club, as well as the President of the Federated Garden Clubs of Vermont, and is a Master Gardener. During her teaching career she was a member of many professional boards such as the Vermont Classical Language Association, Vermont Foreign Languages Association, Classical Association of New England, Northeast Conference of Foreign Languages, and the American Classical League where she served in various capacities. Elaine taught Latin for 34 years in Vermont and Michigan, and enjoyed many awards such as the University of Vermont’s Outstanding Teacher Award, member of “Who’s Who,” the American Association of University Women’s Vermont Teacher of the Year Award, Yearbook Dedications, and recipient of a Rockefeller Fellowship to study Etruscan Art in Italy. She also studied at The American Academy in Rome, as well as with The Vergilian Society in Turkey, Cyprus, and Italy. Every other year, Elaine and Stephen would lead members of her Latin Club on a two week study trip to Italy, visiting Rome, Florence and Venice, with excursions to Pompeii and Pisa. Elaine was a member of the First Congregational Church in Burlington. She enjoyed volunteering for the Pierson Library in Shelburne, where they made their home for 21 years. In addition, she did volunteer work for The Fleming Museum by taking art lessons for children to various libraries around the state. She also served as a Trustee on various Boards including the Pierson Library and the South Burlington Library. Elaine has three stepchildren, Carrie Hopkins and husband, Brant, Liza Dates, and Stephen M. Dates; and five grand-children, Eric and Nathan Roy, Alyssa Garcia, Andi and Moses Dates. Services will be held on Monday, Dec. 1, 2014, at 10am at the First Congregational Church in Burlington, followed by a celebration of her life immediately following at the church.

Erica Beckh Rubenstein
– Shelburne
Erica Beckh Rubenstein died on Nov. 20, 2014, five days before her 100th birthday. Her daughter, Emily Morrow, her son, Daniel, and his wife were with her, and witnessed the mystery of her death. In September 2014, many of her family and friends gathered to celebrate her life, a life rich in relationships and meaning. In the last decade, Erica had lost aspects of memory but retained her wisdom and insight. Erica was born in Bristol, England, and, at the age of 12, moved to the U.S. where her father, a Unitarian minister, lectured at the Labor Temple in NYC. She graduated with a degree in Art History from Vassar College in 1937. She went on to complete a master’s degree and PhD in Art History from Radcliffe College in 1942 and 1944. In 1942, Erica married Lewis Rubenstein and she became an active partner in his creative life as an artist. They made their life in Poughkeepsie, N.Y., where Lewis taught studio art at Vassar College. Lewis’ art can be viewed at www.lewisrubensteinartist.com. In 1992, Erica, ever pragmatic, urged Lewis to accept the fact that they were ageing. They moved to Wake Robin, a life-care community, and became part of that supportive, caring community. Erica was predeceased by Lewis and over the last 11 years, she said how much she missed his gentle presence and companionship. She is survived by her son, Daniel (Nancy); her daughter, Emily Morrow (Paul); her grandchildren, Ari (Sarah), Beth (Michael), Josh (Siobhan) and Lillian Morrow (fiance, Mark Howden); and eight grandchildren, Zoe, Sacha, Eli, Ana, Yemaya, Alder, Ronan, and Bronwen. Years ago, Erica said she would describe herself as a catalyst. During her student years at Radcliffe, she joined other students in persuading the university to accept and fund Jewish refugees on student visas during the Nazi era. Other colleges joined in the movement to save Jewish scholars. Many lives were saved. During the Vietnam War, Erica organized a draft counselling service in Dutchess County and through her efforts, many more lives were changed. Erica’s spirit will continue to be a catalyst for social justice. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you voice your commitment to social justice, equality and fairness, or make a donation to the American Friends Service Committee. The family wish to express their deep gratitude to Kay Greene, Erica’s caregiver and friend, the staff and residents at Wake Robin, the VNA nurses and Noyana singers, and Rev. Roddy Cleary.